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Father’s Day is Bittersweet For Me

June 19, 2010 By 8 Comments

I’ve been feeling “off” for a while now. Past few weeks, I’d say. Sure, I’ve been (intentionally) over-working myself to finish one book and start another. Sure, I’ve been speaking a lot. Yeah, doing one’s taxes and finding out you owe money is no fun, but it’s more than that.

It’s Fathers’ Day.

It started pretty small. Just that niggling feeling. “Yeah, Father’s Day is coming.” And as the day draws closer, that feeling begins tearing. Ripping into things. Something that just colors the world in a muted gray.

Why?

First off, my own kids are 3,000 miles away. So seeing them and spending Father’s Day with them isn’t going to happen.

Next, my own dad passed away about 18 years ago when I was about 22. My dad passed yes as I was becoming a man. Just as he and I were starting to work through things left over from my teenage years.

So I look on Father’s Day as … something that just always hurts. I’m sure that I’ll be able to shake off the gray after tomorrow passes, until then … I’ll just manage.


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  • http://www.amuseconsulting.ca Marc Smith

    Hey Tris I feel a little the same although as you know I don’t have kids. My father passed away July 1st 2000 and so both Fathers Day and Canada Day are always a time to reflect for me.

    I’m lucky that my Father and I were in a great place when he passed away. Nothing was left unsaid for either of us. I accepted him & he completely accepted me. I can’t ask for a better place to be with him at the point of his passing.

    What I have noticed is the uptick in marketing that seems to have occurred around Father’s Day since 2000. I guess Hallmark saw it as a growth market.

    Everyday should be “people you love day”.

  • http://www.amuseconsulting.ca Marc Smith

    Hey Tris I feel a little the same although as you know I don’t have kids. My father passed away July 1st 2000 and so both Fathers Day and Canada Day are always a time to reflect for me.

    I’m lucky that my Father and I were in a great place when he passed away. Nothing was left unsaid for either of us. I accepted him & he completely accepted me. I can’t ask for a better place to be with him at the point of his passing.

    What I have noticed is the uptick in marketing that seems to have occurred around Father’s Day since 2000. I guess Hallmark saw it as a growth market.

    Everyday should be “people you love day”.

  • http://www.arianecdesign.com ariane c

    This will be the first Father’s Day without my Dad around. Appropriately, my husband is riding in the Ride to Conquer Cancer, in his memory.

    It’s only been 10 months since his passing. I’m super grateful to have a very caring and sensitive father-in-law to step in, but he is an ocean away in Holland.

    Don’t know how I’ll be feeling tomorrow, but I tried to keep busy on his birthday as well. Hope you’ll do the same.

  • http://www.arianecdesign.com ariane c

    This will be the first Father’s Day without my Dad around. Appropriately, my husband is riding in the Ride to Conquer Cancer, in his memory.

    It’s only been 10 months since his passing. I’m super grateful to have a very caring and sensitive father-in-law to step in, but he is an ocean away in Holland.

    Don’t know how I’ll be feeling tomorrow, but I tried to keep busy on his birthday as well. Hope you’ll do the same.

  • http://www.trishussey.com/ Tris Hussey

    Thanks guys.

  • http://www.trishussey.com/ Tris Hussey

    Thanks guys.

  • Raul

    As you know my Dad is in Mexico so the day is bittersweet for me too. But we van make it less so. Hugs and let’s do Car Free main street :)

  • Raul

    As you know my Dad is in Mexico so the day is bittersweet for me too. But we van make it less so. Hugs and let’s do Car Free main street :)

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